At What Point Does A Mother/adult Son Relationship Become Codependent And Dysfunctional?

A user asked a question a few hours ago,the answers to which for the most part left me baffled, with my jaw unhinged.
The question basically stated that a 37 year old man spends the night at his mother's house 3-5 nights a week. This man would like to get married and have a family of his own, but his widowed mother leans on him excessively. She wants him to stay at the house with her as often as possible. She is not disabled or ill, just needy and lonely. It seemed to me as if the mother was having her adult son fulfill the "husband" role in the relationship and I didn't see it as being healthy for him (or even her for that matter.)
But many people said this was fine....so my question is, yahoo answers community....at what point does co-dependency and parental/adult offspring attachment become excessive?
LadyCatherine-- ugh, YOU again. You're a hypocrite. It's different when money's involved...but wouldn't a 60 year old women living with her adult son be SPONGING off him to an extent? Even if she pays a little rent? So it's not wrong for a woman to be financially sustained by her children. but adult children being financially sustained by their parents is wrong? It's fine to have differing opinions but you need to BE CONSISTENT. There IS something wrong with "taking care of his mom" when she's not even disabled or ill. She needs to adjust like everyone else does at some point and BE INDEPENDENT. Let me guess-- you want someone to take care of you. If not your husband, then your kids. Pathetic. No best answer for you.
Posted: June 14, 2013

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I saw the qstn thought it was creepy, thats we still have bizarre things like incest societies in this world

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